Cheap Crosses

(The material below regarding the medical aspects of the crucifixion were received from Dr. T.W. Hunt, retired professor from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Ft. Worth, Texas.)



Mark 15:25 " Now it was the third hour, and they crucified Him".

No one wanted a Roman crucifixion. With its origins in the Middle East in the area which we now know as Iran, crucifixion by the Roman government was cruel, vicious, brutal, and humiliating.

The Roman soldiers always made the victim carry the cross to the place where he would be crucified.

And so, the journey began for Jesus to carry His own cross through the streets of Jerusalem. Spat upon and laughed at, His robe ripped from His body, the Roman soldiers brought the cross, which weighed over 100 pounds and made of olive wood, to Jesus. They lashed His shoulders to the cross then tied a long rope around His waist that was approximately ten feet long. (Technically, Jesus carried the crossbar of His cross). The rope was that long, so that, should the victim become reluctant to walk forward, the soldiers could pull the one being crucified down the street.

Jesus had already lost a lot of blood in the garden of Gethsemane. He had actually sweated great drops of blood through His skin through a process of the human body called “hematidrosis”. Hematidrosis can occur when a person is suffering extreme levels of stress, for example, when someone is facing their own death.

Hematidrosis causes great weakness in the human body and can cause the body to go into shock. During this process, as a result of the hemorrhaging of blood into the sweat glands, the skin becomes fragile and tender and the slightest touch can cause a considerable amount of pain.

Before Jesus was crucified, He had been struck in the face and His body had been beaten through the torture known as scourging. Scourging, practiced by the Romans, was a cruel punishment that usually preceded crucifixion.

The only ones exempted from scourging were women, Roman senators, and soldiers, except in cases of desertion. Normally there were between one and six trained Roman officers, called lectors, who were responsible for dispensing the blows to the victims. In the training, the lictors chosen to administer the scourging, had received special medical training.

The lictors knew how to wield the whip so as to open bruises which had already formed. The instrument used for scourging was a short whip called a flagrum or flagellum to which was attached several braided leather thongs of variable lengths. Knots were tied in the ends of each thong, and sheep bone or iron balls were inserted into the knots at the end of each thong.

Jesus had been stripped of his clothing and his hands were tied to a post and the Roman soldiers repeatedly struck the His back and legs with full force causing deep contusions. Lacerations from repeated blows cut into the underlying muscles of His body and ripped the overlaying skin of His back to a point where it hung in ribbons of bleeding flesh. His capillaries and veins would have been torn resulting in intense bleeding.

The pain that Jesus experienced from the scourging was intensified because of the hematidrosis in Jesus’ body. His body would now be in a state of half-shock and His body temperature would have begun to drop. At this point, there would be little fluid left to nourish the tissues of His body.

The Roman soldiers realized how hard they had pushed Him when Jesus fell to the ground and could go no further. So, they enlisted Simon of Cyrene to carry Jesus’ cross.

Once the victim reached the site of a crucifixion, a society of Jewish women would always give a victim a mixture of vinegar and myrrh, which acted like a drug, to ease the pain before the cross was lifted with the person tied to it. That day when Jesus was crucified, two thieves were crucified with Him, and the thieves drank the liquid in an attempt to ease the pain of crucifixion.

But, not Jesus.

No. He wanted His mind clear. He knew exactly what He was doing and He knew the pain that was to come. There was no attempt on His part to try to ease the discomfort or escape any of the suffering that was about to occur.

So, the Roman soldiers flung Him to the dirt and stretched His arms at 90 degree angles on the cross. Then, the soldiers drove 5 inch long spikes into His wrists.

The reason they drove the spikes into the victim’s wrists was so that at the moment of lifting the victim, the median nerve that runs from the wrist to the shoulder, would be severed and excruciating pain would race up and down the victim’s arm. The only relief possible to the victim would be death itself and doctors report that the greatest pain that someone being crucified would experience would have been when the median nerve was severed.

As the pain shot through the arms of Jesus and the two thieves that day, no one could imagine the terrifying screams that went up from the hillside in that awful, awesome moment.

Once the victim was lifted up on the cross, one of two methods was used regarding the victim’s feet. The first method would be to leave the feet hanging, which would bring about almost certain death.

The soldiers, though, had discovered a way to prolong the torture. They would place the left foot against the cross then place the right foot on top of the left and drive a spike through both feet. When the victim would begin to sag and as the body reached an angle of 65 degrees, he would be unable to breathe and carbon dioxide would fill the lungs, causing more terrifying pain. (Imagine holding your breath and not being able to breathe).

In order to relieve the pain of carbon dioxide filling the lungs, the victim would then use his feet to push himself upwards in order to exhale, thereby, resulting in more excruciating pain in his feet and legs because of the spikes in his ankles.

They crucified Jesus on the cross.

He was tortured.

He suffered.

He bled.

And, then, He died.

They cried. His family and His friends, who were gathered around the cross that day when Jesus was crucified, were broken-hearted.

Why did He have to die? Why did He have to suffer such a hideous and heinous death?

Couldn’t He have found another way?

Why is the cross so important? Why was it necessary for Jesus to die on an old rugged cross?

Because the cross is the place where Jesus shed His blood and died for our sins. And, the cross is the place of Jesus’ suffering and sacrifice for the atonement for our past, present, and future sins.

It is in that awful, terrible moment when Jesus, holy and perfect and pure as He was, and is, takes upon Himself the sins of the world and He is crucified.

It is a liberating event for you and for me for on the cross we are delivered from the penalty of our sin. The penalty would have been separation from God for eternity in that terrible place called Hell had Jesus not died for us.

Not only were we delivered from the penalty of our sins by Jesus dying on the cross, we were also delivered from the power of sin in our lives. How cruel it would have been for God to have delivered us from only the penalty of our sins but not offered freedom from the power of sin in our daily lives.

Being delivered from the penalty of sin and being delivered from the power of sin, when Jesus died on the cross, He also set us free so that one day, in heaven, we will be delivered from the presence of sin. In heaven, there will be no sin and what a glorious day that will be!

But, what about the cross today? If the cross was so important when Jesus was crucified, why is it not important to us today?

We live in a world of crosses today in our culture but the crosses are "cheap crosses." Just go into your local Wal-Mart, Sam’s Club, Target, or K-Mart and you can buy a cheap cross (always for much less than the retail price). Just Google the words “cheap crosses” and you will find many web sites where you can purchase a cheap cross.

And, certainly, you know that a lot of people need to wear a cross and other people need to have a cross hanging on the walls of their houses. But, of course, all of those crosses were bought at discount for less than the retail price.

Cheap crosses.

We see people everywhere wearing crosses around their necks on a chain. They wear their crosses in their ears as ear rings. They wear their crosses on their fingers as rings or they have their crosses tattooed on who knows how many different parts of their bodies.

And, it’s cool to wear a cross, isn’t it? Why, just ask Snoop Dog or 50 Cent or rapper Slim Thug if it isn’t cool to wear a cross around your neck. Hey, if the rappers do it, we all ought to do it!

Here is the funny thing about purchasing a cross: you can go into any Sam’s, Wal-Mart, Target, or K-Mart and buy a cross and they won’t even ask you for your O.C.I. badge (Official Christian Identification badge) that says that you are a legitimate, in good standing and long-time member of the “I’m saved because my identification badge says so” society. (Oh, wait a minute! I just remembered: wearing a cheap cross means you believe in God.)

Everybody qualifies to buy and wear a cross, whether they are a Christian or not.

Wearing a cross is appealing, isn’t it? It makes you look cool and it makes a great fashion statement. And cheap crosses profit the companies that make them because they don’t cost a lot to make. So, all in all, if everyone will buy a cheap cross then we will help the economy.

And, cheap crosses might be appropriate to put on the steeples of some of our churches whose pulpits are catering to those who want religion at no cost and no sacrifice.

We don't mind wearing the symbol of the cross around our necks. We don't even mind singing hymns about the cross. And, to be honest with you, we don't even mind if someone preaches about the cross----- just so they preach to lost people and not to us. We love to sing that we will “cling to the old rugged cross” but just maybe we don’t understand what clinging to the “old rugged cross” really means.

If someone preaches that the cross is about personal sacrifice, we don’t like it.

If someone preaches to us that the cross will take us out of our own little world of our comfort zone, we don’t like it.

If someone preaches to us that the cross will mean our own death to sin, death to selfishness, and death to self-centeredness, we don’t like it.

We want to possess the Christian life for as little sacrifice as possible. And, just maybe we can ease on through our Christian journey for absolutely no sacrifice.

We really do want a cheap cross.

God forbid that anybody preach on the cross that requires suffering and sacrifice, about dying to self and dying to the flesh.

When Jesus talked about the cross, it meant death.

When Jesus talked about the cross, it meant denial of fleshly desires and fleshly wants.

When Jesus talked about the cross, it meant heading down a road from which there would be no return.

But, where do we find ourselves today? Preferring a "cheap cross", one in which there is no commitment, no surrender, and no change in our lives?

That kind of cross is not found in the Word of God.

The cross that is mentioned in the New Testament is:

· A cross that is demonstrated by the surrender of lives to follow Jesus Christ.

· A cross that is marked by obedience to Jesus Christ.

· A cross that results in lives being changed.

In Philippians 2:5-8, Paul describes what the cross meant in Jesus' life-

5) Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus
6) Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God
7) But made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:
8) And being found in fashion as a man, He humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

· The cross for Jesus meant no recognition (verse 7a: "…but made Himself of no reputation…"). Jesus was not concerned about making a name for Himself nor was He concerned about being well known or noticed.

· The cross for Jesus meant no prejudice (verse 7b: "…took upon Him the form of a servant and was made in the likeness of men…"). Jesus was willing to become like we are in order for us to become like He is. He was willing to identify and associate Himself with mankind, showing no prejudice toward us and toward our sinfulness, our rottenness, and our wickedness.

· The cross for Jesus meant no pride (verse 8a: "…He humbled Himself…"). For Jesus, there was never an issue of pride. He humbled Himself and became a servant.

· The cross for Jesus meant no rebellion (verse 8b: "…. became obedient unto death…"). We find no resistance and no rebellion in Jesus. We see that He went to the cross to die, willingly and joyfully. (Hebrews 12:2 “Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of [our] faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God”.)

Among the words that have lost their meaning in today's church is the word “cross” and that word that has lost its meaning in our “religious” vocabulary today.

Cheap cross? I hope not but it sure looks like it.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a German Lutheran pastor, theologian, and participant in the German Resistance movement against Hitler and Nazism during World War II. Bonhoeffer was arrested in March 1943, imprisoned, and eventually hanged because of his resistance just days before the end of World War II in Europe.

Bonhoeffer wrote:

"The cross is laid on every Christian. The first suffering which every man must experience is the call to abandon the attachments of this world. We surrender ourselves to Christ in union with His death—we give over our lives to death. When Christ calls a man, He bids him come and die....death in Jesus Christ, the death of the old man. Only the man who is dead to his own will can follow Christ. In fact, every command of Jesus is a call to die, die to all our affections and lusts. But we do not want to die…” (end quote)

Instead of a cheap cross there must be the realization that the cross is costly. It cost Jesus His life. It will also cost us our lives by requiring us to die to self.

What is dying to self?

Gene Warr, says it best:
“When you are forgotten or neglected or purposely set at nought, and you don't sting and hurt with the insult of the oversight but your heart is happy, being counted worthy to suffer for Christ, that is dying to self.

When your good is evil spoken of and when your wishes are crossed and your advice disregarded, your opinion ridiculed, and you refuse to let anger rise in your heart or even defend yourself, but take it all in patient, loving silence, that is dying to self.

When you lovingly and patiently bear any disorder, any irregularity, any impunctuality, to any annoyance, when you stand face to face with waste and folly and extravagance and spiritual insensitivity and endure it as Jesus endured it, that is dying to self.

When you're content with any food, any offering, any climate, any society, any solitude, any raiment, any interruption by the will of God, that is dying to self.

When you never care to refer to yourself in conversation or to record your own good words or itch after commendation, when you can truly love to be unknown, that is dying to self.

When you can see your brother prosper and have his needs met and can honestly rejoice with him in spirit and feel no envy nor question God while your own needs are far greater and in desperate circumstances, that is dying to self.

When you can receive correction and reproof from one of less stature than yourself and can humbly submit inwardly, as well as outwardly, finding no rebellion or resentment rising up within your heart, that is dying to self.”

Let me ask you: are you dead yet?”
(http://dyingtoself1.blogspot.com/

Good Morning. This is God.

Good Morning. This is God.

Today I will be handling all of your problems.

Please remember that I do not need your help today.

If the devil happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle,

DO NOT attempt to solve it.

Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box.

It will be addressed in MY time, not yours.

Once the matter is placed into the box,

do not attempt to remove it so that you can hold on to it again.

Holding on or trying to remove will only delay the resolution of your problem.

If it is a situation that you think you are capable of handling,

please consult me in prayer to be sure that it is the proper resolution.

Because I do not sleep nor do I slumber,

there is no need for you to lose any sleep.

Rest my child.

If you need to contact me, I am only a prayer away.

And, if I need your help, I know how to contact you.

With all my Love,

God

Something More Than Just "Doing" Church

Author: Jeff Elkins

Recently my family and I had an incredible experience at a church in Baltimore. The church, which shall remain nameless, did everything perfectly.

The front door was held open for us by a gentleman with a kind smile. I immediately felt welcomed.

The layout of the entry way was awesome. Even though it was my first time at the church, and there were a ton of people coming in and out, the natural flow of traffic let me know exactly where to go.

The welcome desk was well labeled and prominent on the left hand side of the entry way. It was staffed with friendly helpful people; and there were no lack of easy to approach greeters with clearly visible nametags standing around expectantly hoping someone would ask them a question.

Beyond the Welcome desk there was a room full of breakfast treats and the smell of coffee was in the air (a huge plus for me).

A greeter identified us as visitors and led us to the Children's check in area.

The Children's Sunday School Check-In Desk was also extremely easy to find. Check in there was great. One of the workers escorted us to the classrooms, explained to us the security procedures, and answered any and all the questions we could possibly have.

The worship service was impeccably pulled off. The music was sincere, not showy in anyway. There were multiple worship leaders, but it was extremely smooth and enjoyable. The songs were relevant, fresh, and easy to pick up for someone who might not know them. They did a great job of trying to help people engage Christ without terrifying those that might be new the church experience.

The sermon was clear, relevant, and engaging. The pastor's points were well thought out and communicated. My attention was held the entire time.

There were no unnecessary rabbit trails or rants. It was challenging but not offensive, informative but not burdensome, fun but not ridiculous. It was a good message.

After the service we went to get our kids and they were beaming. Yes...that's right...our kids loved Sunday School there. Usually a new church experience will send them all into tears, but not this time. They couldn't stop sharing stories about how much fun they had.

This church is a well oiled machine. They have it down. They do all the things church growth authors say should be done to create a wonderful church experience. They pull off an excellent attractional worship service.

As we drove home I asked Wendy what she thought. Reflectively she said, "That would be a very comfortable place to fall into, but there has to be something more." I agreed, "Yeah. That was amazing...but I don’t believe it is going to turn Baltimore upside down for Jesus."

Now, please don't think we are being judgmental or critical when we say "there must be something more." You must understand:

First, I think this church is incredible. I have attended a lot of churches, and I've never been to one that pulled off an attractional worship service like they did. Seriously, they did an amazing job.

Second, please know that I am very much part of this church; and therefore commenting on myself as much as my experience this past Sunday.

Now I'm not a member; but I celebrated and worked in churches like this one over the years. I applauded when churches like this one risked everything, denied all contemporary wisdom, and fought the status-quo to become environments that were comfortable and inviting to outsiders.

I cheered as these churches put down the hymnals and put lyrics on easy to see screens; as they got rid of the traditional pews and went to more comfortable stadium seating. I defended speakers that were struggling to give sermons in more "seeker friendly" ways and did my best to mimic them.

I got fired up about worship music becoming more like the music my generation listened to. I created environments that were fun, comfortable, and exciting, and then instructed the congregation to "bring their lost friends next week!" I've built crazy sets for Sunday mornings, hung flyers on door knobs, cooked pancake breakfasts, pulled off insane visual illustrations, put on Easter pageants and Hell Houses, delivered invitations with soft music playing behind me, and on, and on, and on...

So you see, when I speak about the attractional church I am not an outsider. It is very much a part of me. It has defined my walk with Christ. It has been the beat of my heart; but recently my heart has begun to ache.

So back to "something more..."

My problem is two fold:

First - I believe that the church is the only organization that can bring healing to the pain of Baltimore. Because it is the only group empowered by the Holy Spirit, it is the only group that can bring dead things to life.

Second - the things that used to work, the things that used to excite people about coming to church, the stuff that used to bring people to the healing power of Jesus, now seems to be the status quo and are no longer working like they used to. The people in my community that are disconnected from God are not attracted to our worship services any more, no matter how relevant we make them. (This is not just my personal experience. There are tons of studies out there now showing that less and less people every year are attending church.) They don't care what the music is like. They don't care how relevant the message is. They don't care if it is welcoming and inviting.

You see, the attractional based model assumes that there are groups of people out there that would attend a worship service if that worship service was simply welcoming and inviting. One author I read recently called these groups of people "window shoppers." The goal of the attractional church has been to create a beautiful window that would draw people in...but these groups seem to be quickly diminishing.

In an attractional church, the primary activity of the body, the front door where people are introduced to the church, is focused on being comfortable and exciting. It therefore, unintentionally, feeds the consumer attitude already present in our society.

Now, I don't know yet how to fix this yet, but here are a few things I have come to believe firmly in the last year...

We have to stop making our front door (where people come to check us out) a worship service; we need to make it our lives. People should not be encountering the Holy Spirit for the first time by watching believers worship. They should be introduced to the Holy Spirit through the insane, crazy, wild, reckless, sacrificial love of Jesus that defines everything we do, every conversation we have, every breath we take.

We should not be known for our music, our teaching, our environments, or our kids programs. We should be known for our humility, our brokenness, our passion for the poor, our acceptance of the outcast, our forgiving justice, our non-judgmental righteousness, and our generous giving of ourselves to others.

We must stop making the tools the point. We have to recapture what Jesus meant when He said, "The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath." If we continue to make our worship service, our programs, our small groups, our activities, our spiritual disciplines the defining focus of what we do we will find ourselves losing Jesus on the journey.

Let it be said that we carry in us the attitude of Jesus. That we are people defined by our love for God and our love for others. Let the world be amazed at how wildly we give of ourselves, at how recklessly we serve, at how humbly we live, and at how unsafely we love. Let it be said that when you encounter one of us you never before felt so valued and cared for. Let membership in our community not be defined by the where we are from 9:30 to Noon on a Sunday, but rather by our reputation in the community as people that live differently.

And let the cry of our lives be, "Jesus is Lord.”

This is my hope for the church.

Thanks for reading my rant.

Jeff Elkins is an Examiner from Baltimore. You can see Jeff's articles on Jeff's Home Page:
http://www.examiner.com/x-13920-Baltimore-Baptist-Examiner



To: The Pastor

Dear Pastor,

I wanted you to know that you are loved and you are appreciated. Every day you get up and quietly go about the business of taking care of your church family. You are their pastor and you are their leader. People are following you because they know that you are following Jesus and they can honestly say that if they can be more like you then they will be more like Jesus.

But, people know that there may be times when you wonder whether anything you are doing is making a difference in people's lives and you wonder whether anyone really sees what you are doing. It can be very difficult as you minister to your church family and to your community.

Sometimes, the way can be discouraging. The long, and sometimes lonely, hours that are necessary to prepare to preach, along with the pressure of everyone expecting you to "hit a home run" every time you come up to the “batter’s box”. There are those days and nights that you spend at the hospital ministering to both the physical and spiritual needs of those who are hurting. There are the countless numbers of hours spent counseling, trying to come up with answers to help those who are hurting emotionally and spiritually.

Then, there are all of the meetings you have to attend and you are expected to minister to those in your community who don't go to your church but go to another church or they don't even go to church at all.

People know that there are times when you even have to neglect your own family for the critical needs of people in your church; those situations when you just can't say "no" to someone who needs your counsel, support, and a shoulder to cry on.

And, it’s entirely possible that you might be discouraged because you haven't seen your church grow like you thought it would. You are working hard, maybe harder than you have ever worked before. And, you wonder, at times, if it is worth it all and you wonder whether anyone really sees what you are doing or would anyone even notice if you just stopped……..sometimes, it may even feel like you are invisible to God.

You cry out, "God, what is wrong? What is wrong with my church? What is wrong with me? God, what is wrong with You? Can't you see that my heart is breaking over the spiritual condition of those I minister to? I keep investing my life in their spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. But, it seems, sometimes, like nothing ever changes! No one even says, ‘Thank you for your hard work and dedication.’ No one says, ‘Thank you for your many hours of sacrifice to help us in our walk with God.’ ”

Pastor, perhaps you have even said, "God, if something doesn't change in my ministry, I'm just gonna quit! I can't take it anymore. Nothing I do seems to make a difference. I’m not sure if anybody really cares about what I am doing. I’m not even sure if anybody really cares about the things that matter to You. It seems, at times, as though the only thing that matters to people is their physical needs and wants. Why aren’t they concerned about the spiritual needs in their lives?"

But, there you are, every day as pastor, teacher, counselor, and friend. You are the one who gives a compass to point the way for unsure feet. You are the one who is patient with those who often go astray. You are the one who gives guidance on how get to going in the right direction.

Sometimes, it might seem like people don’t notice how hard you work or how much you care but that’s not really how it is. Everything you do and every word you say makes an impact upon countless numbers of hearts.

Too often, though, they don’t tell you how much they appreciate you. But, part of the reason may be that they can’t find the right words to say it because they love you and appreciate you so much. Words just don’t seem to express what is deep within their hearts about how much you mean to them.

On behalf of your church family, please know of their admiration of you and please know that they look up to you. You are their shining light in a cold and dark world. You are their encourager when they feel like giving up in the face of dark and lonely days of the trials in their lives. They know that when they come to you, that you will help them look at their situations with a different perspective and you will encourage them by telling them that they can make it with God’s help.

Thank you, beloved pastor, for all that you do! You are making a difference in their lives and, as a result, you are making significant contributions in the kingdom of God.

In closing, though words sometimes are inadequate, what is written below describes a little of who you are as pastor:

“Can you imagine a place where to be great you must be a servant? Where the qualification to be first is to be last? Where the mighty are defined by their meekness? Where the richest are those who have given the most away? There is such a place and it is the kingdom of God.

The real heroes in God's kingdom are those who are ordinary, everyday people who have learned the secret of giving away things that they cannot keep in return for things they cannot lose.

Most of their major contributions to the kingdom of God have gone unnoticed. Their contributions have taken place in the everyday experiences of life: countless acts of love, support, and confirmation that have eternal significance in God's eyes.

Only heaven will be able to show the significance of their efforts and give credence to the belief that little is much when God is in it.”



Just some thoughts about Mother's Day and Father's Day

Many years ago, before I was a pastor, I had always noticed in the churches that I served, that there was an obvious difference between Mother’s Day and Father ’s Day recognitions.

I observed that on Mother’s Day, there was always the proverbial recognition of the oldest mother, the youngest mother, the mother with the most children in attendance, etc. But, when Father’s Day was observed, there was never much of a big deal made compared to what was done in regards to Mother’s Day .

This bothered me because I felt like fathers were being slighted quite a bit because there was a much bigger deal made over the mothers than the fathers.

Another observation that I made, before the Lord called me to pastor two churches, was that I always felt sorry for the men and the women in those churches who were never blessed with children for whatever reason. For example, some married couples were physically unable to have children and then some men and women were never married in life. It seemed like on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day that men and women who had never had children, for whatever reason, were made to feel inferior because we didn’t recognize them on these special days.

When God called me to pastor two churches, I decided to do something about this. Here is what I did:

1. Whatever recognitions I made on Mother’s Day, I made the same recognitions on Father’s Day. If we recognized the oldest mother on Mother’s Day then I recognized the oldest father on Father’s Day (mother with the most children in attendance then I recognized father with the most children in attendance, etc.)

2. I decided that I would find a way to honor all men and all women on these days, instead of just those who had children. I knew that some of the most important people in my life, who had some of the greatest impact upon me, were men and women who never had children. So instead of recognizing just mothers on Mother’s Day and just fathers on Father’s Day, the churches I pastored, on Mother’s Day we had Women’s Day and on Father’s Day we had Men’s Day. On Mother’s Day, I recognized all women and on Father’s Day I recognized all men.

I made a special point to say “thank you” to those men and women in our church, though never blessed with children, for their impact upon countless numbers of children’s lives in the church and also in their families and in their community. I gave a brief testimony of the men and women in my life that had made a difference in my childhood/teenage years and the profound impact they made.

Yes, we recognized both mothers and fathers who children equally (we did the same things for both groups), but I also recognized (had them stand up) all of the women and all of the men in attendance and honored them and thanked them for their significant contributions to the kingdom of God.

The “church” should never be a place where a person is made to feel inferior just because of their status in life, including the issue of never having children.

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Have you ever noticed any difference in the way your church celebrates Mother’s Day and Father’s Day? What might happen if we recognized all of the women and all of the men on these two important days?

Just some thoughts about Mother’s Day and Father’s Day.








He Maketh No Mistake

By A. M. Overton

My Father’s way may twist and turn,
My heart may throb and ache,
But in my soul I’m glad I know
He maketh no mistake.

My cherished plans may go astray,
My hopes may fade away,
But still I’ll trust my Lord to lead
For He doth know the way.

Tho’ night be dark and it may seem
That day will never break;
I’ll put my faith, my all in him,
He maketh no mistake.

There’s so much now I cannot see
My eyesight’s far too dim;
But come what may, I’ll simply trust
And leave it all to Him.

For by and by the mist will lift
And plain it all He’ll make,
Through all the way, tho’ dark to me,
He made not one mistake.

(A. M. Overton was a pastor who lost his beloved wife in 1932 and for her funeral he wrote this incredible poem).



Can a leader be a servant and can a servant be a leader?

Matthew 20:27-“…and whosoever would be first among you shall be your servant”.

Matthew 23:11-“The greatest among you shall be your servant”.

The question must be asked: Can a leader be a servant and can a servant be a leader?


In order to answer the question, one must answer the following question: What is a servant?

A servant empties himself of pride.

A servant doesn’t have to talk about himself but lets others talk.

A servant doesn’t have to control a conversation in a group of people.

A servant isn’t jealous.

A servant isn’t greedy.

A servant isn’t malicious.

A servant isn’t slanderous.

A servant doesn’t exalt himself.

A servant doesn’t need to be recognized for what he does.

A servant doesn’t need to promote himself.

A servant doesn’t need to be the first in line and is actually glad to be the last in line.

A servant doesn’t expect other people to serve him but looks for ways to serve others.

A servant understands that the rules apply to him just as much as they apply to everyone else.

A servant wants to be lowly.

A servant knows that he has no rights and expects no special privileges.

A servant wants to be crucified and wants to die to the flesh.

A servant doesn’t brag on himself.

A servant doesn’t need to impress other people.

A servant is glad when he is treated like a servant not just when he is called a servant.

A servant isn’t hurt when he is forgotten or overlooked.

A servant refuses to let anger rise in his heart and refuses to defend himself when his good is evil spoken of, when his wishes are ignored, when his advice is disregarded, and when his opinion is ridiculed, taking it all in patient, loving silence.

A servant doesn’t itch after commendation and truly loves to be unknown.

A servant rejoices, feels no envy, nor questions God when he sees others around him prosper and their needs being met while his own needs are far greater and in more desperate circumstances but yet to be fulfilled.

A servant lovingly and patiently bears any insensitivity and annoyances from other people.

A servant humbly submits inwardly and outwardly when he receives correction and reproof from someone and allows no rebellion or resentment to rise up within his heart.

A servant doesn’t think more highly of himself than he ought to and considers every person in his life a special gift of God, created by Him for a special purpose.

A servant is content with the level of God’s provisions of his financial, physical, and spiritual needs and trusts His Master to always take care of everything he needs.

And, finally, because he understands that the heart of Jesus lives within him, the servant knows that his humility and his lowliness are his gifts to the kingdom of God.

What is a servant?

Ah, now, that is something you will have to decide for yourself.

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Some of this is original material and some of it is adapted from: “Dying To Self” by Gene Warr, Video Tape, Wise Investments, Copyright 1977, International Evangelism Association. Gene Warr was a great preacher and teacher who is now enjoying the presence of God in heaven. You can listen to his messages and view some of his studies at: http://www.discipleshiplibrary.com/gene_warr.php and more biographical info at: http://www.discipleshiplibrary.com/pdfs/gene_warr_more.pdf